The Vitalized Couple

Taking the time to reflect on your relationship is an important part of growing as a couple. While most newly engaged couples hope they have touched on all the important topics that come before the 'I Do', often, time passes you by and you never get the chance to talk about certain factors that might play an important part in your life down the road.

Recently, my Fiance and I met with our priest. Tom and I will be having a Catholic Ceremony and with that comes certain responsibilities such as; Meetings with our priest, a compatibility test, Pre Cana day, all sorts of fun. Don't get me wrong, we are both excited for the spiritual side of coming together as man and wife. Prior to meeting with our Father, we had to take a Compatibility Test. We took the quiz at different times and afterward we went out to dinner to discuss the questions and how we answered them.

This was such a wonderful opportunity to go over topics that may have been touched on in the past, but never quite received the clarification you were looking for or maybe things you didn't know about each other. Though Tom and I are nearing our five year anniversary there are always new things we learn about each other.

I wanted to bring this topic to the forefront because I feel that sometimes the Wedding Planning can take a toll on the actual relationship. I think most Brides or even the Groom would agree that with all the details that goes in to planning the big day you can get caught up in all the hype and stress of the details of the wedding that you forget to focus on what is really important and that is the two of you and your future together.

Here are a few examples or Talking points:
  Scale of 1-10 (10 being the most)
1. Ability to express one's feeling and ask for what one wants.
2. Do you feel your partner dominates the relationships?
3. What are the common stressors in your life? i.e; Financial concerns, your career, your family, your health, etc.
4. How many children do you want in the future?
5. What religion will your children be raised in?
6. Are you romantically satisfied in your relationship?
7. Are you flexible to change or inflexible?
8. Do you feel connected to your partner?
9. Would you consider yourself a social person?
10. On the scale what is your confidence level?

Now, these are just a FEW questions reworded from the quiz, there were A LOT more and intimate and very personal questions that were asked and I am very happy we both had this opportunity. Turns out we are very compatible! (Whewww)

What are your thoughts? For those already married or those soon to be wed, do you feel you that you were/or are prepared for what's ahead?